When I wrote part one of our weaning journey, my goal was to wean Bowie the day after her 3rd birthday. That day was last week and I am happy to say that she actually weaned about 3 months ago. A bit of a combo of her not asking and nature taking over.
After dreading my solo night away, the night came and went no worse nor better than to be expected, according to Anu. Not only did he have to help Bowie when she was upset because she couldn't find me, he lucked out majorly as it was daylight saving that night so he lost an hours sleep too! He took it in his stride, he is amazing like that.
We had decided that the night away was a good time to drop the morning feed. It was a little rough for around 3 mornings, lots of tears and cuddles and I so wanted to give in on the first morning. For a mama that prides herself on parenting by instinct, it was so damn hard to say no to her. In a perfect world feeding beyond this age is great but there were reasons we needed to stop. I hope she understands one day.
Now that we were down to the bedtime feed only, I felt confident that we had done this the best way we could. We continued on like this for about 3 weeks, then I had two nights in a row when I was out when she went to bed. This really affected my milk supply and it started dwindling. Over the next few nights, Bowie would nurse and sometimes she would tell me “no more milk”. Some nights she didn’t even ask! Soon it was apparent that there was no more milk indefinitely and she was ok with it. A couple of times she has been a bit upset because she wanted to nurse, and even now more than a month on she still asks and cries when I say it is all gone. We cuddle and talk about it and end up giggling about something silly, usually poo and farts, that seems to be her favourite topic of conversation.
It hasn’t been an easy road. And there has definitely been some changes in behaviour which remind me that I need to do more to connect with her now that one of our primary connections is gone. We still cuddle to sleep every night and I am totes not ready for that to end. Do you think she will still want to cuddle to sleep when she is 9? I hope so.